Domestic violence! The sad thing is that it exists across the world and statistics prove that 3 out of 5 women tend to encounter it at some point of time in their life. Most women do not acknowledge that it exists even if they are victims.
It exists across all strata of society, among the poor, middle class, rich and the elite. There is also no distinction between educated and uneducated class when it comes to this form of violence. You will also be surprised to know that it is prevalent both in the urban and rural areas.
As the people who suffer from domestic violence and people who perpetuate are related, it is often brushed under the carpet, in a convenient manner. As family honor is involved, no one talks about it. In some cases the cycle of violence continues unabated for many years.
In some extreme cases, it could even lead to death, suicide and depression. Women who undergo domestic violence suffer from low self esteem and this takes a heavy toll on their physical and mental health.
The key ingredient of this act of violence is domination by one partner over the other. In some societies it has become so common that it has become an accepted norm. As the victims neither complain nor talk about it, the perpetrators become encouraged to continue with this form of violence.
Most victims are not even aware that the abuse that they have been encountering can be categorized as domestic violence. Here is a list of signs that will help you identify whether you are a victim of domestic violence.
- Does your partner yell or humiliate you in front of family and friends for no apparent reason?
- Are you constantly threatened or abused? Does the threatening attitude extend to children and other family members?
- Does your partner treat you as a sexual object and derives immense pleasure in hurting you?
- Do you need to seek his permission to do anything in life, even speak?
- Does he destroy household items in a fit of rage?
- Does he use physical force against you? Are you constantly pushed and beaten?
These are just some of the common signs that you might be encountering domestic violence and it is important that you recognize them to help you get rid of it permanently.
You will need a multi-dimensional approach to tackle it in a successful manner. There can be no justification for such violent behavior and you make have to seek medical for your abusive partner to help end the menace.
Acknowledging that there is a problem is the first step towards finding a cure for it. Let us look at some simple but effective tips that will help you break the cycle of violence.
- You would need to ask your partner if something is wrong. Most people who abuse will never accept that there are perpetuators and could end up denying such a behavior. You would need to be patient yet firm.
- Offer help in all possible ways. You can take your partner to a doctor to help determine the cause of such violent behavior. If the problem is due to a psychological problem, it will help in determining the root cause. The abuser could have been in an abusive relationship during his/her younger days.
- Never put pressure on your partner as you would need to acknowledge that it will be a slow process. Do not expect overnight success.
- You should never blame yourself for the cycle of violence. You are a victim and there can be no justification for violent behavior.
- Don't be afraid to ask for help and begin the healing process by offering support.
Domestic violence is not something that you need to live with forever. Do not overlook or deny the problem and seek professional help if necessary. No one should live in fear and none can deny your happiness. Help is available, if you seek it.
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